She still has counseling to cope with her loss, and often visits places she went with her sister to feel close to her.
These days, Siobhan is carrying on with the healing process. "She was so into partying I knew she would have done something, so I realized I had to." In the end, she chose a birthday cake with a picture of the two of them on top. Sharon and I would sometimes celebrate together-we had a big karaoke night one year," she says. "I was worried about celebrating our 40th last February. I feel like there's nobody in the world who can compare to the relationship I had with Sharon.īirthdays can be another prompt of the twin who's been lost. In some ways it's maybe been comforting but mainly it's a really difficult reminder." "In the beginning too, Sharon's children would stare at me. When I visited our old office too, the receptionist would take a deep intake of breath," she says.
"There were times when I walked into the house with my hair tied up-Sharon wore her hair up a lot more than me-and my dad got really upset. Now, she says, her looks have "definitely made things harder."
"Even in adulthood he couldn't at times, and people in our office would talk to us thinking we were the wrong person all the time." "As babies, I was always dressed in pink and Sharon in yellow, as my dad couldn't tell us apart," Siobhan says. One of the reasons for this could be down to the way that the surviving twin looks exactly like their lost sibling-a permanent reminder of the person they've lost.įor More Stories Like This, Sign Up for Our Newsletterĭespite the fact that Sharon and Siobhan were technically non-identical, they looked very similar. The Fullerton study also indicates that out of the different types of twins, identical twins feel bereavement more keenly. Watch: The Activists Making Sure Kids Don't Miss School Because of Their Periods Elvis Presley was one famous example-the stillbirth of his twin brother is said to have haunted him all his life, while pianist Liberace said the death of his twin in the womb fueled his flamboyant lifestyle and desire to "live for two." The sense of loss is so intense that even those whose twins died at birth or in the womb (known colloquially as "womb twins") can remain profoundly affected. Siobhan is one of thousands of twinless twins round the world-defined as somebody who lost their twin whether it be in or around birth, during childhood, or during adulthood. Read more: A Genetic Illness So Rare Only One Family Carries It At the start it was so difficult to get over." Sharon was the one person I would have phoned in any situation and I just didn't have that anymore. We worked at the same place and went for lunch every day. Two of our children were born just six days apart. "We had seen and done so many things with each other. "We spent almost every waking moment together since we were born-partners would say there were 'three people in the relationship,'" she says. Born just 11 minutes apart (Sharon was the oldest), the pair had an incredibly close bond.
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